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Sunday, September 15, 2013

A Month of Firsts












This last month has felt a little like this.









        And this.

And this     


I am more attracted to my husband than I have been in years. In many ways it feels like we're going through a second honeymoon period during our TENTH year of marriage! How is this possible? To be honest, we never had much of a first honeymoon period. Maybe there was one or two months, three months at the most, when we were first married where we were enamored of one another and easily glossed over the other's imperfections. I don't know if it didn't last long because we were already best friends for so many years and knew each other well enough to be annoyed with the little things that much quicker or if our power struggles just began that early in our marriage. Who knows? But that's not really what this post is about.

It's unreal to me that we've been married for ten years and we're just now experiencing so many firsts. In the past month I've had my first erotic spanking. I've experienced my first disciplinary spanking. I've enjoyed servicing him, if you know what I mean, and honestly in the past that was something I tolerated for his sake, but never enjoyed. And just recently, as in yesterday, my ass lost it's virginity. This was something that was a fear of mine and to be honest, if it weren't for his newly acquired HOH status I'm not sure that I would've cooperated. But he knew I could handle it and urged me onward. I'm working hard to learn to trust him as HOH and part of that is to trust him sexually and let him tell me what I can handle. He knows. He really and truly does and he would never do anything to hurt me.

So for those that are unfamiliar with the pics above, that's Meg Ryan in "When Harry Met Sally", an entertaining and lighthearted romantic comedy. In the scene shown in the pics above she is demonstrating how a woman can easily fake a believable orgasm. While her pleasure was faked, I assure you that mine in this past month has been absolutely real.

I'm looking forward to where my HOH leads me in this new and unfamiliar territory of exploring and enjoying my sexuality. I know he will continue to push me out of my comfort zone and I think that makes him a terrific HOH. He's not going to let us stagnate. And even as we age together, I know that he'll keep things exciting until our parts are burnt out and spent and ready to move into the next life.
       

11 comments:

  1. we will be married for ten years in January and it was the same for us....basically all new stuff at year 7 when we started our D/s dynamic. We didn't have the honeymoon period...our sex life is a lot more awesome now then it was before. Our first week of D/s I felt like I was going to eat him.

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    1. Haha. I know the feeling. I'm sure the novelty will wear off at some point, but I'm hoping somehow to retain this heightened appreciation of my sexuality!

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  2. wow you must be exhausted and thoroughly satiated. I want to do a cheer for you after all those wonderful firsts lol. I totally understand uh hmm doing and tolerating that one thing ;).... just to please him and then (angels sing ahhhh) you suddenly one day have a whole new perspective on it, find a new love, appreciation and need to be be attentive to it. Enjoy :) MUAH

    <3 CoralZad

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    1. Yeah - it's odd for that to just change suddenly after all this time. I don't know if the DD/Ds perspective brought that on or if it's a mid-30's libido increase? Who knows, but I will enjoy and try not to analyze it too much!

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  3. Love this!!! Glad things are going so well for you!

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    1. Thanks. Me too. I'm hoping that somehow this lasts. I mean, I don't expect the intensity to continue at this level, but if this lasts on any level, that would be fantastic!

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  4. Oh yes!!! I can relate. I'm more in 'crazy-in-love-feeling-butterflies-and-all' with him now than I was when we were dating or newlyweds or ever.

    I keep waiting for it to wear off, and sometimes when life gets in the way it seem not as intense, but every time we take another step deeper into our journey, the crazy deep feelings are back all over again.


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    1. Agreed. I do worry that the novelty will wear off someday and we'll lose this new connection that we've found. But after reading blogs of people who've done this for years, it seems that for a lot of people that's not the case. The very nature of this new dynamic calls for constantly reconnecting. So I have a ton of hope!

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  5. We still have our moments. Old habits rear their ugly head. I think we're very much in a transition phase. Things are wonderful, frustrating, encouraging, discouraging,sexy, and many other things all at the same time!

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  6. ItIt's amazing how living this lifestyle intensifies a relationship. I can't imagine going back to a vanilla life ever again. The vulnerability and trust it requires makes it so much more intense. That is so great you found this thing. It's scary but the risks are so worth it!
    Congrats on all your firsts :) I look forward to reading about your journey!

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    1. I agree. I think it's the deep trust that is going to cause significant growth in our relationship. At the same time that level of trust is what makes this so hard and is going to come some significant growing pains as I struggle with the concept of letting go!

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